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Self Love Chronicles: Love Wins

In life, we oftentimes forget how love can show up in our lives in a myriad of ways.

The way that I have allowed love to show up for me is by me loving on me, then there are the traditional ways of love showing up by way of our family, friends, and significant others. But, what happens when that love is broken by you breaking your own heart by entertaining someone that doesn't value or appreciate you? or When someone you love breaks your heart through the act of distrust or betrayal? Do you then give up on love, or do you keep hope alive and give love another try?

Well, I have learned so much from myself and others while on my personal journey and I must say, the most consistent theme that remains present is that love always wins. Love wins through the daily presence of God in our lives, and no matter what age you are, what your sexual preference is, or if you witness love in animals, love always seems to prevail. I had the privilege of witnessing my 68 year old father find love again and get remarried last month, and while at the wedding, I realized that no matter your age or where you are in your life, if you remain open to the concept of love and put in the necessary work to maintain it, you will attract and have it remain as a constant force in your life. Even my 5 year old Toy Poodle found his own version of love in his new 2 year old soon to be furwife, Kenya, and by watching how he even knows how treat her with such chivalry, really had me amazed at the power of love; it is truly universal and can reach any person or animal. Love just is, and we are meant to just let it be and allow it to transform our lives for the better.

My sister, Dad, and I on his wedding day

This self-love process has truly positioned me in a space of self-prioritization, and no matter what, the love I have for myself takes precedence and has no boundaries. As long as I am happy and safe with whatever I am doing to express love to myself, then I am happy and fall deeper in love with myself with each moment that turns into an amazing memory. Many folks may think just because I am loving on me that it means that I am not open to someone else loving me, and that can't be further from the truth. I am open to receive love, the main difference now is that I know what I will and will not accept, and will not just entertain anyone just to say I have someone in my life that I hope will eventually love me. I am doing the necessary work in order to attract the right person for me, and when the time is right, God will make it clear who I can allow myself to be vulnerable with enough to allow them to love me.

I have also learned that love adds to your life while lust takes away. Love adds more security and positive self-esteem, while lust has made me feel insecure and confused.

I rather choose love each and every time although I do fall into lust at times. The only difference is that I am equipped with all the tools that allows me to protect myself from falling into the toxic rabbit hole that lust can introduce to your life; I stray from anyone of anything that compromises the love I have for me. My mission is to remain intentionally happy and continue to prioritize the love I have for me with or without a romantic partner in my life.

I know the word "love" has been mentioned many times in this post, but what can I say, when you feel so full of love, it is very hard to contain it!

I pray you all find your very own versions of love in your life and that you feel warm as you witness love in the lives of others, even if it is with your pets.

Sending you all well wishes of love, happiness, & ultimate joy.

No matter what, never forget to:

Be Audacious.

Be Fearless.

Be Intentional.


Lead with Love


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